Life! Who knew! That's right, who knew it would be like it is, or as it has turned out. Did anyone ever tell you things would be this way? Did they warn you of the things to come? Would you have done and said the things you did, if you had known the outcome?
I think daily of the things I have done over my lifetime. The things I have said that would have better been left unsaid. The people who have been saddened or hurt, by just a passing comment or the ones that were hurt by no comment at all. I have tried to come to terms with the things that have happened in my life, good and bad. Most do not have that chance. Most people tend to sweep things under the rug and try to ignore them. I am here to tell you that no matter how hard you try, you cannot make them go away. They rear their ugly heads to haunt you when you least expect them.
I have also had negative statements made about and to me. I have come to the realization that most people do not know how much something may hurt you. Something as simple as a comment about your makeup or your hair can hurt. I can remember a time when someone made a comment about me wearing makeup. They did not mean anything mean, but to me the comment "you look really pretty with makeup on", made me feel horrible. It was probably the mood I was in, but I took it to mean, you look like hell without it. This made me feel bad all night long. In fact, I went in and washed it all off. You never know who or what might set you off. Even the simplest of statements can cut to the bone.
I try really hard now to find something nice to say about people, especially if they are sad or in a bad mood. It does not always happen quite like that though. Some people do not take compliments well. Some people think you want something from them when you are nice. So when you go to say something nice to people, make sure you are sincere in your approach. Life is hard and treats people in funny ways.
I am not sure what went wrong, I was just trying to be nice....
people are funny.
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